I saw many people who had to chose a different path to what they originally desired to. It is easy to say their circumstances changed but within those who had to experience this, I wonder how many people still strove for what they wanted.
When I think back, it is hard for me to think about things that I’ve given up. I think instead of giving up, I have chosen to move on from things happened. Probably I’ve learnt to adapt to current situation and appreciate what I have in my hands rather than what I am yet to have.
So, when I think back, I can’t think of much. I know that had to give up dairy products due to my intolerance. I had to also give up amount of food I can eat due to health issues. Other than these two, I think I’ve made my decision based on my circumstances, necessity, and urgency.
I know there’s one thing I didn’t give up no matter what happens, no matter what my inner self felt or told me. Although I didn’t choose to pursue this at the beginning, I have chosen to continue this path. I have continued my study and research even my inner self felt I am not good enough, or I am too slow. There are days that I really appreciate my decision at time.
You must not for one instant give up the effort to build new lives for yourselves. Creativity means to push open the heavy, groaning doorway to life.Daisaku Ikeda
If you don’t give up, you still have a chance.
Giving up is the greatest failure.Jack Ma
Part of me was simply afraid to be labelled as a failure. If I didn’t continue, what other people would say? If I didn’t continue, what was my life for past few years? If I didn’t continue, what am I going to do in my life? These were all questions going on in my head and feeling of shame can easily take over my heart.
Let me share a story. Before graduating from conference, I have attended a conference as a compulsory component of my highschool curricula. We’ve been took away for three days, although majority of us took it as a holiday. I don’t remember who it was but I still remember a speaker who shared his life about first time when he nearly given up his job.
I was in this job for few months but I was so ready to giving up. I was so sick of what I was doing. I can’t see the end of this and I just didn’t want to continue. I called up the headquarter and spoke with someone that I want to resign from the job and I am going to sending in my resignation letter to CEO. That person asked me for a reason and I described to him why I wanted to quit the job. He carefully listen to me for hours after hours. Then he told me “I understand you want to quit this job and you have all rights to do so at any given moment. If you know that you can quit anytime, why quit today?” This question actually stroke me and I released my stress. I had to ask myself ‘Yes. I can quit anytime but why today?’ Every time when I came so close to walk away, I remember this instance and ask myself ‘why today?’ This has kept me going until now. This has motivated me to strive for my dream.
I heard this talk more than 20 years ago. There were so many different speakers in that conference but I remembered this component. I remember how he made his dream come true.
Never give up.
Today is hard, tomorrow will be worse, but the day after tomorrow will be sunshine.Jack Ma
Even if things don’t unfold the way you expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. One who continues to advance will win in the end.Daisaku Ikeda
For someone it might be easy to give up. For others it might be something keep them alive today. For me, striving for my own study had carried me to here. Even though my original intention was totally different to now, I still appreciate myself then to make such decision.
What are you thinking to give up today?
Is that necessary for you to give up on this today?
Will you appreciate your decision in five years time?