A friend shared with me about how you treat yourself/others will reflect how you will be treated.
Treat people the way you want to be treated.
Talk to people the way you want to be talked to.
Respect is earned, not given.Hussein Nishah
I had to reflect on my own behaviour of how I treat myself, my family, my friends, and my significant others. Let me share a story.
There were times when I didn’t treat myself with upmost respect. I allowed others to step over my boundaries. I allowed them to treat me like I treated myself, without any respect. Living with my brother’s family, sometime he treated me as inferior to him. At the time, I wasn’t earning any money and my self-worth was very low. One day, my niece picked his behaviour and started to treat me as inferior to her. My sister-in-law saw that behaviour and asked my brother to reflect. Instead of allowing them to continuously treating me like that, I started to ask them why they treated me like that. I told them how I feel when they treated me like that.
Time passed by, when I started to gain confidence and respect myself, I’ve noticed that no one treated me without respect. Even they did, I move away from them because I don’t need to be around people who treat me without a respect.
I believe the greatest gift I conceived of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by then, to be understood and touched by them.
The greatest gift I can give is to see, hear, understand and to touch another person.
When this is done I feel contact has been made.Virginia Satir
I feel I connected with a person when my existence has been recognised by them, my voices were heard by them, my perspectives were understood by them, and my life is touched by them. Simply acknowledging existence or being of a person will allow them to blossom their uniqueness. I believe this is what many friends did for me.
I exist today with upmost respect to myself because my friends acknowledged my existence. They acknowledged my uniqueness and allowed me to blossom in a way that was natural for me, without a judgement. They believed in my potential, listen to my stories, tried to understand me as a person. This was the time I feel “I was finally granted to be who I naturally am.”
Can you remember first time when someone acknowledged your existence?
What can you do to acknowledge existence of another person?
When do you feel you are connected to another person?