One day, when I was having a lunch with my auntie, I met my cousins by coincident. We haven’t met for years so it was great to catch up with them. A cousin said that he’s working with his parents as a carpenter. With a surprise I asked:
Me: Was that your profession?
Me: I mean, was that what you’ve studied in your undergraduate degree?
Cousin: No. If I knew this is what’s going to happen, I would not choose to study what I’ve studied.
Cousin: Yeah. Probably, I didn’t even need to study a senior high and become an intern straight after junior high.
In a way, I was surprised that he didn’t study or follow his passion. On another, I felt that he is my future self if I didn’t pursuit with my passion of research. Following my parents’ profession and never revealed my true dream.
Never regret anything because at one time it was exactly what you wanted.Marilyn Monroe
Another cousin said that he was studying his second degree. He had completed his first degree and then moved to his second degree. I asked what was his intention to study his second degree.
Cousin: Well, my first degree will not take me anywhere.
Me: and your second one will?
Cousin: I think so.
Me: Are you thinking to combine these two profession?
Cousin: Not at all. I just lost interest in the first one.
In the modern society, research have shown that people will change about six professions during their career. I knew personally myself many had moved to another profession for better options such as income, work environment, and context of the work. It is part of the risks they are taking but they have pursuit their vision.
I knew that if I failed I wouldn’t regret that, but I knew the one thing I might regret is not trying.Jeff Bezos
I will forgive you if you make mistakes.
But I will never forgive you if you don’t do anything.Jack Ma
I remember my supervisor told me repetitively that “Have a go. I will be here to back you up.” It took me many years to believe in this statement. It was fear of failure and self-doubt that stopped me from trying. It was that sense of seeking external validation and wrong sense of self pride that prevented me from freely revealing myself.
Only recent years, I felt that It is okay to have a go. It is okay to make mistakes. If it didn’t work, learn from it and keep moving. It was my supervisor who kept repeating that “Have a go. I will be here to back you up.”
When was the last time you tried something unknown?
Are you living in regret?
What can you do today?