Recently, I come across the word “resilience” multiple times in my life. This doesn’t mean that I never come across this word. It simply means that I take more notice of this word.
What does being resilient mean to you?
I find this very difficult, to explain to someone whether I am resilient or not. I can’t define how resilient I am as well.
How does a resilient person looks like? feels like? acts like?
How do you know whether a person is resilient or not?
I guess, the answer lies within each individual. People might not notice their own resiliency in the midst of everything happening in their life. Only later, when they reflect on their life, they may realise whether they were resilient or not.
For me, resiliency is a concept that I never thought about. When I’ve encountered challenging times, I am too busy gathering wisdom and taking actions to overcome such challenges rather than thinking “I need to be resilient.”
Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected.
Sustainability is about survival.
The goal of resilience is to thrive.Jamais Cascio
Resilience is very different than being numb.
Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt.
But, you keep going.Yasmin Moghed
Have you ever encountered a person without any difficulties or challenges in their life?
I never encountered a person without encountering any challenges. I met people from all sorts of life journey.
Resilience is the maintenance of high levels of positive affect and wellbeing in the face of adversity.
It is not that resilient individuals never experience negative affect, but rather that the negative affect does not persist.Richard Davidson
As I was curious of their decisions, regardless of what they’ve experienced, I started to ask a question “How did you feel about your past?”
Majority of people answered in different voice, “Although it wasn’t something I choose to experience, without that experience, it is different life. I will be a different person.” I have learnt that regardless of what they’ve been through, they have used it for their growth.
Challenges are what makes life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.Joshua J. Marine
Many times, particularly when I am facing challenging times, I tend to blame on others and situation. However, without a fail, it bounced back on me that I personally had to do something if I am concerned or wanted to make some change in my life. I then learned that it is the constant battle with my inner voice.
Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up.Mary Holloway
As challenging situations in life are inevitable, no one can have a challenge-free life. What I find challenging, might be different to what others perceives as a challenge. For example, ‘studying’ is pleasure for me but for others, it is a painful part in their life. For me, running even 1km is a struggle but for others it is an easy task. Regardless of the context and extent of the challenges, there are meanings to them and eventually they becomes the colour in life.
Iron, when heated in the flames and pounded, becomes a fine sword. Worthies and sages are tested by abuse.The Writings of Nichiren Daishonin, Vol 1, p. 303
I am not what happened to me.
I am what I choose to become.Carl Jung
I am aware that when I feel down or tired or discouraged, I have tendency to label myself as a “victim.” This is not everyday but occasionally that’s how I feel. Then, I have to fight with my inner voice which reminded me that I was a victim once. I don’t like the word ‘survivor’ too. These words, victim and survivor, I always felt that I was defined by what happened to me. That defines who I was allowed to be.
However, whatever happened to me is a past that I cannot change. I can choose how I react to it but I cannot change it anymore. What I can change is the destination of my future. I can make the cause by planning the seeds now that will lead me to a new path that I choose to walk.
Am I resilient or adaptive or tolerant?
Am I still challenged of being a victim/survivor?
Am I doing everything I can to walk the life path I have chosen?