I struggled with the phrase ‘best friends’ or even ‘friends’. I used to think families are extension of friends. Probably because of my relationship with my family but I felt it was healthier relationship to think in such way.
One night, my niece and sister-in-law were having a chat about ‘best friends’ or ‘good friends’. They suddenly turn to me and asked ‘who’s my closest friend’. Without a hesitation or thoughts I replied “my sister-in-law”. Both of them looked annoyed and said “yes we know, who’s the next closest?” “My supervisor” I replied but both of them looked a bit puzzled. “Yes, but she’s your supervisor” I totally understand what they mean and respond “Well, my relationship with my supervisor in that term is a bit complex. Yes, she’s my supervisor but she’s also my colleague, friend, mentor… you can name it. It’s just so hard to describe our relationship in a word.”
It is so good to have friends who understand how there is a time for crying and a time for laughing, and that sometimes the two are very close together.Lois Lowry
She’s one of those rare people who shared a good portion of life between us. I think in a short chat, we change our hats depending on our topic. Sometime we might be even wearing multiple hats at a time.
If a person has just one good friend, their happiness is doubled and their life immeasurably enriched.
This is genuine wealth.Daisaku Ikeda
Someone once said to me you don’t have to be with someone all the time to remain a good friend with them. Instead, regardless of your time apart or distance, you enrich each other’s life when you meet with them. I have few of them I meet or connect with every now and then. This is the time when we have realised we have sit for hours.
Who’s your good friends?
How do you define who’s your good friends?
How do you spend your time with them?