Probably, it is my nature. Probably, it’s how I’ve been brought up. Probably, it’s the culture. I remember I used to say ‘sorry’ very often. One day, my sister asked “do you really mean it?” I thought about it and replied ‘Yes.’ The other time, someone else said “you just want to get off your chest. That’s called transferring the responsibility.”
Have you noticed how many times you are saying the word ‘Sorry’?
When you are late to the meeting with your friend? When you are yet to read the email? When you didn’t respond to an email on the same day? Is ‘sorry’ an appropriate word? or did you mean ‘thank you’?
These days, before I saying this word ‘sorry’, I actually ask a question, am I really sorry? if yes, what am I sorry for?
For too much of my life I apologised when I wasn’t wrong, all to make a situation better.
I’m not going to be that person anymore.Samantha King
Let me give you an example.
I randomly text/call friends every now and then. Asking how they’re going with their life. I do not expect any response but yes, it is great to hear back from them.
Recently, I text few friends of random. Two of them responded as follow:
“Sorry I couldn’t respond to you straight away. I was at …” It only took them about 5 minutes to respond and they’re sorry for not respond immediately? Then, I had to ask them “Why? for what?” and explained to them that I am grateful that they responded to me but I am not expecting them to respond instantly in a busy life.
You don’t have to defend or explain your decision to anyone.
It’s your life.
Live it without apologies.Mandy Hale
Sometime, I feel that I have to explain or justify my decision to others. For example, when I decided to continue studying, I thought I had to explain to others why I have decided to do so. However, I am now that I didn’t need to explain to others because I already know this decision is coming out of my heart.
What are you deciding today?
Why are you saying ‘Sorry’?
Are you using the word ‘sorry’ appropriately?