Taking action for others were something I used to be good. One day I felt unfairness when I needed someone’s help and I had no one around. This is the time when I felt that I might not have true friend as I thought I did. So I questioned myself: Why am I doing so much when no one’s going to return that for you? Am I expecting too much from the other?
Actually, I was challenged by this perspectives for years. I remember one day someone said to me “I like your commitment and passion to help others but if you are helping others, help from your own will, not to expect a return from the others.” Since then, I started to practice this notion. When someone ask for help or I was planning to take a action for others, I question myself “Why am I doing it? Why do I want to do it? For what purpose?” These questions helped me to minimise my tendency to expect return from others.
When one takes action for others, one’s own suffering is transformed into the energy that can keep one moving forward: a light of hope illuminating a new tomorrow for oneself and others is kindled.Daisaku Ikeda
When I realised that I have experienced something that wasn’t usual, I was very depressed. For me it was part of everyday life but for others, it was shocking reality. I was depressed because I was out of that ‘normal’ box, set by general public.
How did I keep myself alive?
A senior friend said to me once that:
“I have my upmost respect to you. I can only imagine how much you had to go through but I can assure you there is a profound meaning why you had to go through that. Your life is so profound that no one else can go through similar journey as you. You have so much to offer to this world, to others who needs your help. Who needs your wisdom to guide them through. You have a great life ahead of you.”
Until then, my experience was a burden. I felt as if it was fault of me that I can’t live a ‘normal’ life. From then, my experience is meaningful to me because I have a purpose of life emerged from it.
Are you translating your experience?
How are you translating your experience?
What do you make your experience mean?