I was talking to my sister the other day. Slowly she’s getting better but she questions every decision she made and every relationship she had. According to her perspective, there’s something wrong with her that’s why she’s yet to have a successful relationship.
“What do you mean by successful relationship?” I asked.
“Some relationship that turn out to be long-term relationship.” She replied.
Then, she began her story.
“I had a chat with my long-term friend and she said that for all eight years that she been my friend, I never introduced her to a boyfriend. She said that she can’t understand why I had so many male friends but never developed to such relationship. At beginning, I thought the relationship didn’t workout because of the other party didn’t understand me. But, when I had so many, I didn’t know what to do. I started to feel that it must be me. Even though I tried so hard, still, not working. “
Not only feeling that she’s devaluing herself but I felt that she was full of self-doubt and lost confidence in herself. I couldn’t say much but I could share my experience. Well, I had to constantly remind myself she’s a different person and the decision is on her hand.
The human spirit is as expansive as the cosmos.
This is why it is so tragic to belittle yourself or to question your worth.
No matter what happens, continue to push back the boundaries of your inner life.
The confidence to prevail over any problem, the strength to overcome adversity and unbounded hope – all reside within you.Daisaku Ikeda
It took me awhile to believe in myself, to be courageous, and to be strong to choose happier decision. If I can send a message to myself 10 years ago, I would say:
You might be confused and lost at current moment. But, remember to give yourself a credit where you are. You are doing everything you can that’s leading to your future path. No matter where it lead you it is the correct life path for you.
Are you devaluing yourself?
Can you believe everything residing within you?
Where do you want to go?