When I think back, I didn’t have everything I wanted during my childhood and young adulthood. Whilst, I know that my parents tried their best to provide what they could from the choices they had at that time. We weren’t rich but weren’t the worst. I know mum watched every cent we spent.
So, since I was young, I have been told how lucky we are, as a family, to live abroad, access ‘better’ education, and prepared for ‘better’ life in comparison to those who couldn’t afford such opportunity. When I meet my paternal grandparents and relatives, they would share how much they have contributed to keep us living abroad. Now, I can see it wasn’t an easy tasks for everyone to keep a family of five to live abroad, but back then, I felt unfairness of not having a ‘normal’ ‘easy’ life.
Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously.
And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.Ralph Waldo Emerson
One of the turning point question in my life was, asked my supervisor, “If you could turn back time, would you do it differently?” Not surprisingly, majority of time, the answer is ‘no’. Only then, I realised that I have done everything I can in that given time.
So, if I can’t do it differently, and I can’t turn back the time, what can I do about it at this present moment? Appreciate everything happened in my life as a fact of life and carry on with life. Make the most out of that experience, learn from it, and use it as part of life.
This reminds me of a life lesson from an uncle who, for the first time, explained the importance of experience to me.
“You know people can take everything you have owned from you such as money, job, friends, networks, support and others that you can name it. However, no one can ever take away what you have learnt from your experience. That’s something you own for the rest of your life. That are treasures that you can accumulate in your life. Similarly, you can teach or share with people what you have learnt. However, without experiencing itself, many will not learn anything from it. Some experiences might be really harsh and tough but that’s the reality we live in. Make most out of all your experiences. Appreciate that you have such chance to experience all the things that you are experiencing. Can you now see the value of your experiences?”
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.Melody Beattie
I have imagined multiple times what kind of person would I be today if I didn’t experience such and such, if I didn’t make that decision, or if I didn’t act in such way. Even little things like if I didn’t wake up in that time this morning, I would be a different person to who I am now.
If there’s no coincidence in life, everything meant to happen in such given time, regardless of good or bad. Well, in fact, if we determined and committed to make most out of all experiences, there will e no experience that would be wasted in my life.
People whose heart are full of gratitude and appreciation are truly beautiful.
A humble heart is the wellspring of great growth and development.Daisaku Ikeda
What are you learning from your experience today?
What meanings are you giving to your experience?
How are you appreciating your experiences?