A strategy to change your current situation is to change your perspective. It is to challenge those perspectives you have as a common sense. Is it really a common sense? Is it really something you need to hold on to? These are some of the question to ask yourself.
Let me share a story with you.
In my traditional culture, to show you are welcoming your guests, you need to fill in the glass to the fullest of the guests. Not filling it to the top means that that guest is not welcomed here. In another culture, it was opposite. If you filled the glass of the guests to the fullest means that that guest is not welcomed at your place. These are just simply different culture but it has changed my perspectives of what I have known as common sense. I become more aware of cultural sensitivity and I now learnt to ask what is cultural appropriate behaviours.
Few days ago, I have learnt from my niece about what is the true meaning of changing the perspective. It actually opened my eyes and made me realised that how limited my imagination was. The authentic imagination shouldn’t have any limitations.
One of the arson named as “one of the worst” mass murder was the Kyoto Anime studio which happened on mid July 2019. In this incidence of 70+ employees, 35 employee were burned to death. The whole building were burned down with flame that melted metals. It involved well-known creators and producers who would have contributed further for anime development. For many anime fans, this was a devastating harsh reality. Kyoto Anime studio was involved with many famous anime around the world. On the news, it showed fans commenting how much courage and encouragement they have received from their productions. It is a loss of the world.
As I grew up, I gradually understand that life is not a smooth sailing. There will be things happening that’s devastating. It is the harsh reality. Following were the conversation of my sister-in-law and my niece after explaining the news of Kyoto Anime studio.
Niece: So 35 employees of well-known anime studio died and went to the heaven right?
Sister-in-law: Yes. That’s correct.
Niece: That’s great.
Niece: Yes. They had 35 creators and producers gone to heaven at once right?
Niece: I am sure every parts of their production line can be covered somehow by those 35 people who went to heaven together. They can start their own studio and continue with their production. Then, people at heaven can gain courage, encourage, and inspired by watching their production. That’s very exciting for those people already in heaven.
Both myself and my sister-in-law looked at each other and felt really inspired by this kid. For adults this was a harsh reality. For my niece, it is an opportunity that these people can still contribute and continue with their purpose of life. The only difference is where they do that.
The optimist thinks this is the best of all possible worlds.
The pessimist fears it is true.J. Robert Oppenheimer
An optimist understands that life can be a bumpy road, but at least it is leading somewhere.
They learn from mistakes and failures, and are not afraid to fail again.Harvey Mackay
I think I am relatively an optimist but I am aware of my tendency not able to face harsh reality. I know they exist and that’s all I want to know. Majority of us know life is not just a smooth sailing. There will be stormy rough days. However, as human, we have choices. We can choose how we want to react or respond to it if we choose to do so.
How do you progress through your rough days?
What can you do to change your day?
Can you change how you react to your harsh reality?