For every experience, there are associated lessons that you have to learn from it. I learnt that I have a choice to make the most out of it or live in that prison. I have a choice to ignore it or appreciate it as an opportunity.
I remember at age of 5, I learnt the importance of have a common language to communicate with others. I learnt how children can make fun of you if you are different to their known existence. I learnt been different or unique to your surroundings, you need courage to keep yourself going. This was also the first time I realised that when you move to another culture, you need a culture broker who can assist you to settle.
I remember at grade 5, I experienced silent bully of exclusion from the class. This is the time I found my passion in writing and how to enjoy time in solitude. I learnt how to stand tall, and not to be defeated by external values. Probably, this was the time I learnt that people need a place where they are genuinely accepted regardless of their background to survive in a harsh reality. You just need a person who believe in your potential and oversees you to keep trying.
I remember at age of 18, I experienced the isolation from the society. I was living in a city; however, for the first time in my life, I felt I have no one to go to. I had friends around me but I felt something was missing from my life. This was also the time I deeply reflected on myself. That made me realise my harsh reality at the time. I not only lost myself, I wished I disappear from the world. I learnt some values in my life and I had encountered a person who changed my life.
Bad times have a scientific value.
These are occasions a good learner would not miss.Ralph Waldo Emerson
Life is filled with challenges that we can turn into opportunities. In last few years, my supervisor repeatedly told me to keep going. Don’t get defeated because your manuscripts are rejected by a journal. “Say thank you to their feedback because it is another opportunity to improve your manuscript. More you do it, more refined your arguments.”
I have not failed.
I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.Thomas Edison
Someone once told me that “journey is more important than outcome”. I always believed that it is important to have an outcome regardless of what it takes. Only recently I realised that indeed journey is more important. As a human tendency, we tend to look for outcomes. However, it is what happened in the journey grow each individual who went through. A reality is that other people can’t evaluate that because no one else went through the same journey as you have experienced it. Your growth will not be obvious to others and probably not to yourself too. It is growth over a time that people realise it is obvious.
What have you learnt from your tough times?
What did you gain from your challenging times?
How did those challenging times strengthen your life?