How do I stay true to myself?

I thought staying true to myself is my life long journey. If you ask me a year ago, I would have told you that I have to start by defining who am I. I felt very invisible because I had this contradictory perception of who I am. For example, one day you might find I am a warm welcoming person. On next day, you might find I am a very cold person who do not easily disclose to others. Sometime I actually felt that I can swing between an extreme to another extreme. I didn’t know who I am.

A year ago, I found myself by allowing myself to be. This was the first time I allowed myself to accept who I am with all the parts that compose who I am. Some people might call that assertive. Others might call egoistic. I just accepted me with all the strengths and weaknesses as part of me.

Stay true to yourself in all you do.

When you are honest with yourself, you are respecting who you are.

Self-love and acceptance equals happiness.

Cindy Cleave

Respecting myself as who I am become my new theme in my life. I am able to determine my values in all aspects of my life. Then, everything else, including inputs from people around me, become a background noise. It doesn’t mean I learnt to ignore feedback from others. I learnt to choose what to take in and what to shield out. I learn to give back those unwanted feedback to those who gave it to me.

Being true to yourself means living in truth with each person in your life.

It means refusing to say or do something that you don’t believe is right.

Living in truth with other people means that you refuse to stay in any situation where you are unhappy with the behaviour of another person.

You refuse to tolerate it.

You refuse to compromise.

Brian Tracy

Gradually, I gained courage to act to protect myself. Then, at the same time, I gained courage to reveal my vulnerable self or true self to those who I choose to share with. I learnt to quit unwanted conversations. To some people, I finally realised that they will not do any harm to me or criticise me because I’ve being me. Some friend actually said that they enjoy being around my true self because I am not stressed about the situation.

You have a unique gift to offer this world.

Be true to yourself, be kind to yourself, read and learn about everything that interests you and keep away from people who bring you down.

When you treat yourself kindly and respect the uniqueness of those around you, you will be given this world an amazing gift – you!

Steve Maraboli

I still don’t know what I can contribute to this world. However, I try to do everything encountered in my life. When I have allowed myself to be myself, I also learnt to allow others to be. Then, I realised that I finally started to enjoy my life. I finally appreciate who I am and very excited to imagine where I can be if I want to be, if I put this in action.

What are you looking for in your life?
How can you contribute to this world?
When you allow yourself to be, how did your environment changed?

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