I was reading a novel which illustrated about a love story of a partner with a deadly illness. Of numerous novels I had read so far, I remembered this particular story because after reading it, I had to think about what I would do in such situation. I imagined myself on both side: watching loved one dying; or leaving loved one in the world. I never thought years later, I would be experiencing my significant other would die before me though. Well, this novel becomes a chance for me to think about such reality.
I asked myself that if I can choose what I want others to remember of me, what would I choose. There were no doubt that I want them to remember my existence but I wanted them to remember my smiles and laughter. Probably this is one of the thing that my mother modelled to me. She is a person who expresses all her feelings to her fullest. I thought about this in my early teens.
Years later, I started to hear people commenting on my smiles and laughter that I’m always so happy. Well, that means I have covered and pretended well. I think that’s part of my character/personality. Regardless of what I was really feeling, I was able to leave an impression of my smiles and laughter.
Your smile is your logo,
Your personality is your business card,
How you leave others feeling after an experience with you becomes your trademark.Jay Danzie
Eventually, I started to hear feedback from friends stating that how they enjoyed spending time with me. I have several people told me the influences that I have made in their life. It might be a sentence I said in our conversation that I don’t even remember. It might be a story or a concept that I have shared. Sometime I am surprised what I have said.
Caring about others, running the risk of feeling, and leaving an impact on people brings happiness.Harold Kushner
As stated above, I want to be remembered with the influence I was able to make in their life. I want to be remembered with my smiles and laughter. I wanted to be remembered that I have enjoyed my life to the fullest.
What do you share in your life with those around you?
Are you aware of the impact that you are making in their life?
How do you want to be remembered?