Few days ago, I met with a friend who I met at my highschool times. It was interesting to chat with her as she has returned to the country, married, and started a family. Well, nothing wrong with what she has chosen to do in her life. It was interesting in the way that even though that was the life she has chosen, she was not satisfied about her current life.
She said that meeting up with me reminded her what’s important in her life. For her, living in a culture where external voices are so loud, I understand it was challenging for her to stay true to her values and believes.
We should not allow our personal values to erode, even if others think we are peculiar.James, E. Faust
I shared my life with her, in particular this year. How I saw myself last year to who I am now. I shared few important journeys that I had undertook and how these journeys changed how I see my life. Obviously, as a highschool friend, she knows me well, my strengths and tendencies.
Whilst I shared my journey this year, I think I had triggered her memories about my past incidences. She started to become emotional but I felt as if I had another self watching over this situation with a sense of calmness and peacefulness. Then, I become aware, for me, these incidences are no longer have enough energy to drown me. I remember that at a point of my life, I didn’t like to see people cried for me because of what happened to me becuase I felt I have be re-labelled again with been a victim. This time, I had no emotion raised from witnessing my friend crying for me.
A friend who understand your tears is much more valuable than a lot of friends who only know your smile.Sushan R. Sharma
Through me sharing my life, she began to reflect on her own. She sarted to answer questions that I asked her earlier in our dialogue.
Is your life really as bad as you think it is?
What’s holding you back from living the life what you wanted to live?
What was your ideal life looks like?
How would you like to live your life?
What’s missing in life that makes you feel you are not satisfied about your life?
What’s the real concern you have in your mind?
Before she left, she said:
“I am living a life that I once dreamed of. Thank you for remind me I once had dreams. I will think about them on my way back home.”
Close friends are truly life’s treasures.
Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves.
With gentle honesty, they are there to guide and support us, to share our laughter and our tears.
Their presence reminds us that we are never really alone.Vincent van Gogh
Do you laugh with friends often?
When was the last time you share your life together?
Who do you want to share your life with?