Family: My perspective

Family is one of the essential components in my life. I was bounded by my family tradition and expectations. I don't know how others define dys/functional family but for me it was a reality, just the way it is, and that was where I feel that I belonged to. Traditional family structure of my ethnicity,... Continue Reading →

Inspiration from children: Courage to try

During my primary school years, I have been told to "try my best" but it never stayed with me nor understand its true meaning. Well, probably young me used this as an excuse of not feeling like a failure. "You told me that as long as I do my best, and now this is it.... Continue Reading →

Appropriate connectedness

Recently, I have realised that I've taught inappropriate connectedness. Well, I guess, I've been modelled inappropriate connectedness but I learnt it as the appropriate connection. Not only with parents, with my brother and sister, with close friends, with relatives, with acquaintances, or with outsiders. Never understand what's an appropriate distance with them too. I blamed... Continue Reading →


Setting boundaries was one of the concept that I had to learn recently. Prior to this, it did not occurred to me about the boundaries. I been told to be a 'good girl' and help others. I collected evidences of positive feedback I have received when I've being useful to others, pleasing others, rescuing others,... Continue Reading →

Self-Care: Looking after myself

What is self-care? What does it mean by looking after myself? Looking after myself was one of those concepts that I learnt later in my life. In some sense, this was provoking, in other, this was contradicting concept. Provoking because it was a new concept that never occurred to me as an important perspective in... Continue Reading →

Become a source of light

No matter what our personal circumstances may be, if we ourselves become a source of light, then there will be no darkness in the world. SGI President Daisaku Ikeda This is a quote that I tried to live as one of my motto of life. No matter what my circumstances are, instead of feeling drowned... Continue Reading →

My Identity

I was always searching for my identity. The question "WHO AM I?" was a question that remain unanswered for many years. Until this date, I am still searching for myself. Where do I belong? Who do I belong? What do I have to define me? What do I have that is unique to myself?What's unique?What... Continue Reading →

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